“Wide differences of opinion in matters of religious, political, and social belief must exist if conscience and intellect alike are not to be stunted, if there is to be room for healthy growth.” Yesterday, while internet surfing, I read these great lines of 26th USA president, ‘THEODORE ROOSEVELT’, and mean while one anecdote flashed through my mind.
An intelligent, beautiful, coeval girl, ‘PRASU’ was my two months senior colleague. We weren’t the best of friends, but certainly good colleagues, during my two years of professional Software Engineer tenure at Hyderabad, July 2014-June 2016. From fresher’s day to farewell, we both were working in same scrum team unit, with one or another release. Whenever one of us run-down, fell sick, plan any solo trip, or native visit, the other partner automatically steps in as back-up. We don’t share any work rivalry but all synergy. Our tie consists of cordial, amiable, and friendship. We use to share lunch boxes, party selfies, algorithmic ideas, Bengali/Telgu events, and social thoughts.
And then things changed after first six months. It was somewhere around, first week of January, 2015. We were at the fourth floor cafeteria, sipping coffee and breaking biscuits, all of a sudden one of our colleagues ‘Venkat’ threw a topic of “NITI-Aayog versus Planning-Commission” from his iPhone news app. During group discussion, we both realized we had difference of opinion.
‘Isn’t a self-aggrandizer and history manipulator man, we have as a PM?‘ she taunted me.
‘You’re bit harsh on Indian PM. What’s your problem?’ I replied.
‘Can’t you see this foolish plan of scrapping Planning-Commission?’
‘Please. He has worked 12 years as Chief Minister. This gentleman knows all those difficulties and impacts, aroused due to dissimilar ruling government in centre and states. Isn’t this government is given mandate by public to bring some reforms, to break policy paralysis? He must have envisaged some long term vision before changing this Non-cooperative-federalism, One-size-fit-all set up to new Think-tank model.’
‘C’mon, Mr. Chatterjee! Stop hallucinating. It’s nothing less than a cosmetic change of substituting name or we can say it as mirage. Time will answer you.’
Situation turned worse over the next six months as intolerance debate heated up. Come November 2015, from farce Award-Wapsi to infamous Aamir Khan Statement, it was now evident that we had become clear adversaries. Not to mention, she was diehard fan of Aamir Sir, well so am I, but unfortunately it was my incapacity that I failed to sell her my views, that those Aamir Khan statements were distorted in actual meaning. Hind side it’s been clear that all intolerance debate was nothing but a meticulous planned hyped propaganda to win Bihar assembly election.
Situation turned worse over the next six months as intolerance debate heated up. Come November 2015, from farce Award-Wapsi to infamous Aamir Khan Statement, it was now evident that we had become clear adversaries. Not to mention, she was diehard fan of Aamir Sir, well so am I, but unfortunately it was my incapacity that I failed to sell her my views, that those Aamir Khan statements were distorted in actual meaning. Hind side it’s been clear that all intolerance debate was nothing but a meticulous planned hyped propaganda to win Bihar assembly election.
Anyway, coming back to my story, by now we started confronting each other on various social media platforms- Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, as political debates are not encouraged inside office premises. Clearly our long political raving and scuffle drove us towards frenemy and our platonic friendship choked off.
Well, Prasu wasn’t first. I had lost classmates and friends from School, Graduation College, Hyderabad Central University campus, Social circle, Family-relatives. My counter-strokes for the hate speeches from other side lead all this. I realized my formal and informal friend circle has enlarged as well, but was more of synchronous thought subscribers. Being a data pattern expert, I also analyzed most people has same kind of friend circle pattern, and same case with intellectuals/media-anchors follower’s lists.
I realized the enthusiasm and interest of young blood in politics has been increased over the time. Of course it’s a good sign for vibrant democracy, but problem lies with hate action-reaction blood-boiling youths. While exuberantly criticizing we often cross our limits, we lost our civil sense, we get personal, we annoy others and make noise to prove points, do character assassination, kick threats, doubt others knowledge, and so on so forth.
I’d studied the class seven NCERT textbook long back in school days, but I understood the value of secret adult franchise, designed by our constituent assembly, now. But back then in 1940s, there wasn’t any concept of social media.
To tackle this very challenging situation of presenting your views to someone you value, I reckon probably clever idea is, to be humble and pitch it with low tone. Honoring others with loser, chamcha, bhakt, slave, tags are irrational. Show case facts, figures, evidences and develop your thesis on them. Its sin and crime to bring communal, social and personal background to hammer your victory in debates. Sprinkle pocket veto if it’s not necessary to respond. Why invest energy, time and resources for waste? Patience is key.
The latest fashion is to bash people via tagging them in your statement in social networking sites. Alas! I find it totally immature. Yes, polite suggestions are fine, but not inviting forceful banters.
My suggestion will be, if it’s a colleague or friends, don’t skip on greeting each other in office, elevators, colleges, veranda, cafeterias, gym or badminton court. Your political disagreement shouldn’t ruin your career or social life.
It’s okay to have political differences with friends but then send them wishes and greetings on their promotions, birthdays, anniversaries and festivals. If you notice they fallen ill, poke them, help them. Love and care is humanity. We shouldn’t stop it, just because of chasm of opinion. Defeat that Dichotomy. Actually, that’s what Prasu did.
‘Hi Aadi, are you well?’ She phoned me.
‘Yes, I am. Why do you ask so? Everything fine?’ I enquired.
‘I thought you were unwell, why you are absent since last two days?’ she asked.
‘I am cruising in Goa. Saumya is my back-up.’ I gently replied.
‘Oh! She is new to office, you know that, right? Her bug fixing mistakes lead to plethora of client issues. Big perplexing story. Can I take command?’
‘Oh Gosh!! Yes, Please.’ And I hung up the call after thanking her.
And yes, since then we worked happily, and we still share friendship bond. Now I’m in Delhi and she in Pune. Recently, post Surgical-Strike 2.0, when I saw her Twitter status, it was full with tough political questions. I just smiled and didn’t question her patriotism unlike several troll comment laying on her profile. I observed, she had posted a background cover image of, founding father of the USA, ‘BENJAMIN FRANKLIN’ quoting, “It is the first responsibility of every citizen to question authority.”
After analyzing, unnecessary politicization of the army by both UPA and NDA in recent past, I just left a quote of ‘THEODORE ROOSEVELT’, behalf of her for rest of the public in that comment section, “Patriotism means to stand by the country. It does not mean to stand by the president or any other public official, save exactly to the degree in which he himself stands by the country. It is patriotic to support him in so far as he efficiently serves the country. It is unpatriotic not to oppose him to the exact extent that by inefficiency or otherwise he fails in his duty to stand by the country. In either event, it is unpatriotic not to tell the truth, whether about the president or anyone else.”
All I understood out of this experience is, we need to push behavioral and human science into fora, and not to feed the wolf of bigotry thoughts within us. As they say, both Rama and Ravana reside inside us. Can we boldly muster courage and claim the light of Rama within and defy the all evil Ravana spirit. My Rama here symbolizes "Maryada Purushottam" i.e. Propriety of conduct or Behavior with inner consciousness and human touch.
However in context of this story, I also believe as much as one must ask questions, one is also suppose to accept answers if it given by right authority with right logic & intention. i.e. The response of Indian Air Forces regarding Balakot strike.
All I understood out of this experience is, we need to push behavioral and human science into fora, and not to feed the wolf of bigotry thoughts within us. As they say, both Rama and Ravana reside inside us. Can we boldly muster courage and claim the light of Rama within and defy the all evil Ravana spirit. My Rama here symbolizes "Maryada Purushottam" i.e. Propriety of conduct or Behavior with inner consciousness and human touch.
However in context of this story, I also believe as much as one must ask questions, one is also suppose to accept answers if it given by right authority with right logic & intention. i.e. The response of Indian Air Forces regarding Balakot strike.